"Caring for Interwoven Love to Stay Intact and Not Fragile "

Marriage is a sacred ritual that binds together two beings to navigate the ship household happy until his death. By reaching for the sacred purpose of marriage there are several things that must be considered by the prospective bride before marriage and even after getting married in order to create a harmonious household, vegas, mawaddah, wa mercy. Happy marriage is usually based on many things. One of them is loyalty to the spouse. People are generally caused by having an affair is not a happy marriage. To find happiness is not found in the households of people tend to look outside of marriage. Infidelity triggers so diverse, but all leads to disharmony husband wife relationship. Because the communication can be hampered, many demands of spouse, lack of attention, or it could be because the affairs of the bed is not satisfactory. Each of the affair have their own motivations and reasons. Motivation is the prime mover. Motivation comes from within oneself because of the needs, desires, aspirations, sense of belonging, a sense of worth, and self-actualization. Excessive motivation and no religion will be guided very dangerous and will be a trigger the emergence of a conflict, in this affair. If the motivation we can quickly detect the things that we do not want to be able to avoid.
In Islam one of the Prophet's call for a marriage is kafaah [sekufu]. Equivalent or Sekufu means my level. This equivalence factors can be seen in terms of education, social status, knowledge, descent, skin color, nationality, religion etc.. The higher the level difference is someone in the marriage, the potential for conflict will be higher. So what is very true that the Prophet disabdakan by equivalence factor is very important.
Conflict is part of the art of life. Conflict we can not avoid because it is natural for humans. Just as the conflict in the household between husband and wife, not one family that never conflicted. Ranging from mild to conflicts which lead to conflict divorce.

There are a few tips for potential conflict in the household can be avoided:
1. Express our love to partner with a caring, understanding, trust, compassion, respect, and others.
2. Make us feel proud to partner and happy at our side.
3. Control yourself from negative traits.
4. Trying to always understand our life partner.
5. Learn to play well in accordance with the circumstances and conditions.
6. Change your routine life change for the whole household.

Conflict we can not avoid as long as we are still alive. The root of most conflicts is a family problem, because the family is accompanying the longest life and has the most intense closeness. Hence the Qur'an reminds us to create a family sakinah. But What if a conflict has occurred in household affairs?
Attitude if one spouse had an affair:
a. Stay calm and brave.
b. Pray that our partner is guided into the right path.
c. Take religion with prayers berjamah, following the joint study, listening to religious television together, and others.
d. Make intimate relationships become important.
e. Be a good listener.
f. Keep in mind that infidelity is zhalim action.

In a hadith, Prophet Muhammad once said that one of the pillars of happiness in the household is the wife / husband is unfaithful. Loyalty to calm the heart and pride. Find the happiness of the doors of noble character. Be a righteous husband and wife because they are shalihah who understands how happy her life partner. Of the two it will be a devoted born anakanak which makes the fruit heart. Thus created household vegas, mawaddah, and mercy